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When you love someone, do not expect that the person to love you back the same amount. One will always be ahead and the other must be left behind. It’s either you catch up and the other has to wait. When the door of happiness closes, another opens but often we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one that has opened for us. To love is to be hurt, for no one has ever picked up a rose and appreciate its beauty without appreciating the thorns. To love is not about “It’s your fault!” but “I’m sorry”, not “Where were you” but “I’m right here”, not “How could You” but I understand”, not ‘I wish you were….” but “I’m thankful you are”. Faith makes all things possible. Love makes all things easy. Hope makes all things work. You learn to like someone when you make him or her laugh. But you can never truly love someone until you find out what makes him or her cry. Saying “I Love You” doesn’t mean anything at all. Love is something that proves itself a thousand times a day. And the simple you see count a lot. Don’t love a person for her beauty. It will fade as time pass. Love a person with a warm heart. It will never go cold. It‘s amazing how you easily fall in love with someone who simply smiles, talks and stares at you. The only thing left is to make that person fall for you, too. You can close your eyes on the things you don’t want to see. However, you can never close your heart on the things you don’t want to fell. You don’t always get what you want. You don’t always get what you need. But you should get always what you deserve. Only love can break your heart, fill you with desire and thorn you all apart. Only love can make you cry co’z only love knows why. No man is worth crying over…. If he is, he won’t make you cry. Every teardrop is precious…. So better make sure that when you drop some, it’s worth crying for co’z you can never pick them up and put them back to your eyes. A good friend, who put up you worst mood, laughs at you corniest jokes, goes along wuth craziest ideas, but always sees the best in you. When idea isn’t right, god says “NO!” when time isn’t right god says “SLOW!” when you are not right, god says “NO!” when you are right, god says “GROW!” but when everything is right, god says “GO!” letting go of someone you really love is the hardest part in ones life. But if there’s a chance to bring back that person, then swallow your pride and follow your heart. It’s the best feeling one could never fell! Be mature enough to realize you still have much to learn. Be wise enough to know respect is something you earn. Be the best you can be and life will find its best in you. The only way to keep someone smiling is to keep reminding him or her that they are not forgotten. You can never love without being hurt. You can never succeed without failures. Learn from your mistakes to be much better individual. If loving someone is wrong then I don’t want to be right. And if being right means to live without the person, then I want to be wrong for the rest of my life. For every heart, that finds a heart. There is a heart that cries. For every fond of hello you say, there is a sad goodbye. There are five reasons why boy best friends are the great: a) they make you laugh; b) they are sweetest when you cry; c) they beg when you are mad at them; d) they protect you; e) they can fall in love with you. Sometimes we think that loving someone can be such a risk. How else would we win if we do not take chance? We don’t lose by loving; we lose by holding back. Never whisper the words of love if the feeling is not true. Never share your feelings when you mean to break a heart. Never look someone’s eyes if all you do is a lie. Never say hello if you really mean goodbye.

What exactly is love? Is there an absolute meaning to the word - love? Or is it purely subjective? The concept of true love is what we search for all our lives. Yet love is one of the most misunderstood concepts of all. What people really want more than anything else is to be loved unconditionally; to be accepted for who we are, and still be loved. Sometimes we will do some crazy things, in the name of love. Love is actually the choice one makes to put someone’s wishes, desires and needs above our own. Many people confuse the word love with the meaning of the word want or desire. For example, sometimes when a young man tells the woman of his dreams, I love you, when he means that he wants her because of his own selfish desires. He’s the one that may feel all excited over her, but in reality he may want her because of her physical appearance, or because of her mentality or her ability to make him feel good or important. Notice his primary motive for pursuing her is based on himself and his desires; not on pleasing her, although he may choose to please her, but that’s only based upon the fulfillment of his wants. The same goes for a young woman, when she says to the man of her dreams, I love you, she in fact means that she wants him because of his physical appearance, status, mentality or his ability to make her feel good or important. This usage of the word love for the meaning of the word want is ever so present in the way we use and abuse it. Since we are selfish creatures, and our understanding of love is to first be pleased, look at how this word is overused. · I love Papa John’s pizza. · I just love Gone with the Wind. · I loved Titanic. · I love Jazz Music. · I love Beethoven. · To better understand the concept of love, lets define the value of love. Love is the most valuable commodity in the world. We all need love just like a fish needs water. Without love, life would not be worth living. With love in our lives, we are empowered beyond belief. Without love in our lives we will shrivel up and die a slow, painful and lonely death. Love is the very essence and core of our being. It is the energy that sustains who and what we are. Everyone in life has a deep-rooted desire to love and be loved. Many times people only recognize love in its emotional form. We might hear people on television say things like, I don’t love you anymore, as they express their emotional feelings. However, love is a lot more than what we feel. Love is a spiritual form of energy that can be given or received in physical, emotional, or mental forms. Love usually starts in our thoughts, then spreads to the physical world through our actions, and then it will produce the emotional feelings. For example, it is possible to be angry with our spouse and force ourselves to do something nice for them in our actions, like buying flowers. Pretty soon our emotions kick in and after we see how happy our partner is upon receiving the gift, our emotions will follow. Love is a spiritual gift from a supreme force that starts mentally and finds its way to physical expression, but the emotional feelings we call love have very little to do with what love really is all about. Furthermore, love can also come in healthy and unhealthy forms. Love is an energy that can be used in a positive, healthy manner or a negative, unhealthy manner. There is unconditional love, which is very accepting, supporting and forgiving. There is tough love, which is disciplined, authoritative and conforming. For example, if a father’s son were using drugs, he could unconditionally love him and accept his destructive behavior, hoping that he doesn’t overdose and die. Or he could use tough love and put him in a rehabilitation hospital in an attempt to save his life. So as a result, too much tough love can be unhealthy, just like too much unconditional love can be unhealthy. The acceptance of love also plays a role in better understanding the concept of love. Many times we give love to our partner the same way we would like to receive it. But loving a person this way might not be in their best interests. If our gift of love fails to promote the good in the other person, they might not like it and reject it. Other times we might expect to be loved by our partners in the same way we were loved as children by our parents. For example, if our parents made us feel loved by buying us things, we might associate loving actions especially in the form of gifts, jewelry, clothes and expensive toys. Our partner could be the most loving, supportive, compassionate, understanding and caring person in the world and it’s possible we could overlook their loving intentions if they didn’t come from a store. In conclusion, to love others takes effort, and in some cases this can be very hard work. Ideally, we should also be able to love people who we don’t particularly like or find attractive. This is not as unreasonable as it may sound, if we understand that love is not just a feeling, but it is expressed when we do something for another person that benefits their spiritual and emotional growth, which in turn helps them realize their full human potential.

I hope you have some time right now;
It’s not easy when two people care about each
other and live far apart.

I hope you have some time right now;
I sure found it.
Writing this only took a few minutes,
But I’m sure its impact on you will be
longer than that.
I just want some effort on your part.
I’ve thought about this day and night.
You don’t have to write or call me all the time.
Do those things when you want.
I just want to know you love me.
There’s very little talk and very little action.
They should be higher than that!
If you love me, Show it.
If you don’t, just say it.
Even if you don’t love me, its okay,
That doesn’t mean it’s the end.
You see, I fell for you a long time ago;
And I don’t like it when people pretend.
We can still talk and have our fun,
But I need to know what’s going on.
If this is too serious and strong for you
right now,
Just tell me.
I will understand.
I hope you have some time right now;
This poem is nearly done.
If you keep my heart and break it,
Truly, nobody will have won.
I want to spend my days of youth happy,
Not twisted up in knots of hate.
Don’t do that to me;
Tell me what’s going on,
And I will share my thoughts with you.
But if you don’t act or say something,
Then you are leaving me to assume.
Assumptions aren’t good;
At least not when they are from me.
If all you want is a girl,
And not me particularly,
Then they have a lot of other fish in the sea.
I am not Pinocchio;
Don’t treat me like a puppet.
I know that sounds hypocritical,
When I tell you do this and do that.
I do that because I am afraid that whatever
You decide to do on your own
May not be what makes me happy.

"What’s to become of me?" you say?

That may be the wrong question. What more is to become of me? Ask yourself that question and see what comes up. You always want to be working on the more of you which is the best of the rest of you! What’s left? What more can you contribute to others than by always working on really being more than you have been for yourself and for them? The emphasis is on being. Be. Become.

Become more than you are!

What you think about is what you are becoming. Thinking about what you have thought about in the past is what got you to this point. Look forward to the present. What you are thinking right now contributes to who and what more will become of you. Becoming more than you are happens when you make the decision to only think and live who you really are becoming.

You are what you think!

When you become more than you are, you accomplish not only the personal rewards that come with doing the best you can, you become an accomplishment from which others can model. What is the more that you can become? Think about it! Only work on that, and all the other stuff you value will fall in line in good order and for the good of all concerned.

Think of yourself as an accomplishment!

Are you proud of you as an accomplishment? Are you proud of the example you are for others to become? To take a liberty with one of my favorite good thoughts, "Let your light so shine that others may feel the accomplishment you are."

You don’t have to believe that you make a difference for it to be true!

Look at your children. Look at your significant other. Look at those around you that mean the most. Think of the times you did good and you knew it and you knew that they knew it. Look at yourself and love yourself for doing the best you could, even when it didn’t feel like it. You never, ever should look at what didn’t work except to learn from the experience. The past is not changeable. There is no future in it.

The future is up to you!

It’s true that others are influenced by your speaking and your actions in many, many different ways. Keep looking forward. That was then. . . this is now!

What more is to become of you?

What personal project could you be working on? How about your relationship with yourself first, then relationships with others. You know, the project you can put all of your energy in, because you know that it feeds on the energy you give it. That personal project knows the law of circulation. It gives energy back to you. You both win! And others around you are indeed influenced by that. You begin to see them as winners becoming. Now. . . what about you?

What more is to become of you?